Many people start learning about their identity in their early twenties. This is the time you understand your likes and dislikes. Some people find out that they are more attracted to the same sex than the opposite gender. In many societies, homosexuality remains a taboo that is not tolerated at all. What if you found out that the victim in question is your daughter or son? Even if everybody is entitled to their own opinion, judging someone based on their feelings is inappropriate because man is to error. We all make mistakes, and how we deal with our actions matters. Instead of criticizing homosexuality, we will look at dealing with these feelings and coping with homophobic parents.
How to deal with yourself
Understand what you are feeling
Finding your sexual identity should come naturally and not be chosen. Everybody is different and should not force themselves into orientations that make them uncomfortable. Accepting that you are unique and not pressuring yourself to be like others will save you emotional stress. Knowing who you are, gives you the confidence to live your life happily without feeling victimized.
You don’t have to fit in.
You may be straight or gay does not mean that you have to conform to a particular community. Your sexual orientation should not make you feel inferior to other men or women. If you are not ready to join a gay community, do not do it out of pressure from friends or family.
Develop your individuality
If you accept that you are unique in your way, you will not let any stereotype keep you from achieving your goals. Be strong for yourself even if you face opposition from others and purpose to continue with your life like everyone else. Avoid self-criticism and looking down on yourself. This will help you build your individuality to have the courage to face homophobic parents at the right time.
Avoid unhealthy habits
People struggling with sexual identity find themselves engaging in unhealthy practices such as drug use to deal with the denial and confusion. Get help from CO Recovery Resources to prevent you from getting addicted to drugs as you seek support for mental health. Remember that drugs only give you temporary euphoria but do not change who you are.